Learning
Rethinking decisions
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Identity forclosure
Do you Agree if not, what evidence would change your mind ?
Habit of rethinking
- Think like scientist - Resist preach prosecute or politic. everything is hypothesis and see it as enexperiement
- Define idenity as value not opinions ( Curosity, learning, mental flexibilit) - list of factor can change my mind
- Seek information that goes against bias - challenge your assumption
30 action items
- Think like a scientist
Often, you tend to preach, prosecute or politic. Be curious instead & test your hypotheses with data
- Define yourself in values, not opinions
You are so much better than your opinions. Keep a list of factors that can change your mind
- Seek out information that confront your views
This socratic method allows you to gain deep knowledge and a unique perspective
- Beware the Dunning-Kreuger effect
The more confidence you have, the more likely you are overestimating yourself (and the reverse)
- Harness the benefits of doubt
It is an opportunity to growth. This confusion is an extremely good thing
- Embrace the joy of being wrong
By doing this, you will become right much faster. Improve instead of resist
- Learn something new from each person you meet
The most valuable experience is the special encounter you normally do not have
- Build a challenge network, not only a support network
They will give you useful feedback & help you stay on track towards greatness
- Don’t shy away from constructive conflicts
Make it a discussion, negotiation or debate. No negative emotions needed
- Practice persuasive listening
If you want to change someone, ask questions & pay attention. They
- love being heard
- will have more courage changing
11/ Question how, rather than why
Otherwise, you will receive pushback. By asking how instead, they will be more cooperative since it is more obvious where the limits are
12/ Ask the following:
“What evidence would change your mind?”
No ambiguity, just clear communication
13/ Ask how people originally formed their opinions
Ask them (& yourself) what they would believe if they were born at a different time & place
14/ Acknowledge common ground
A debate is a dance, not a war
15/ Less is often more
Do not bombard with reasons since it is counterproductive & overwhelming.
Bring a few of your strongest instead
16/ Reinforce the feeling of choice
People don’t like to be manipulated. Give them the freedom & they will respect you
17/ Have a conversation about the conversation
Make it ok to express frustration & how your discussion should be conducted
18/ Complexify contentious topic
Almost nothing is either black or white. Make it more grey to facilitate a nuanced discussion
19/ Do not shy away from caveats and contingencies
Acknowledging the other side makes you stronger & more credible. The audience like it
20/ Expand your emotional range
Instead of only frustration, show some curiosity, confusion & ambivalence
21/ Have a weekly mythbusting discussion
Debunking myths will make it easier to rethink overall & improves relationships
22/ Create multiple drafts and seek feedback
This have multiple benefits:
- Getting started more easily
- Relieves the pressure
- Get support from others
23/ Don’t predict the future
You tend to attach your identity to it otherwise. Broaden the possibilities to find the best (and often unexpected ones)
24/ Abandon “best practices”
Seek better practices instead. Improve them
25/ Establish psychological safety
This is the major factor for getting a learning culture. Leaders can do it by expressing humility
26/ Keep a rethinking scorecard
As the picture below shows, you have to factor in the process too. Smart experiments are encouraged
27/ Throw out the 10 year plan
You don’t know how your interests will change. Be open instead to the best choice possible
Plan only your next step
28/ Rethink your actions, not just your surroundings
Seek good intentions & deeds within yourself instead of only the beach
29/ Schedule a life checkup
Observe and analyse your current situation & how it can improve
30/ Make time to think again
